HeartMath Workshop

Heart To Heart Living is presenting another Introduction to HeartMath Workshop!

Date:  Saturday,  December 9th

Time: 1:30 – 3:00 pm

Location: Cedar Rd. The address will be provided to those who register.

Cost: $10.00

I will teach 3 basic HeartMath techniques that will bring more balance and peace to your life.

Space is limited to 10 so register now by emailing me at:

matthewsjan983@gmail.com

 

HeartMath Workshop coming soon

Are you disturbed by the tragic events happening lately? The devastation caused by the hurricanes, the rampant wildfires in BC this past summer, the tragic loss of lives in Las Vegas recently? Perhaps you are finding your day to day life hectic and fraught with upsets!

If you are challenged to find balance and peace in your life, mark your calendar now and plan to attend my Heart to Heart Living workshop on November 18th from 1:30 to 3:00 pm. The workshop is being held on private property in the south Ladysmith area. The address and directions will be provided to those who register. There is a nominal fee of $10.00 for this workshop. Register early because there are only 10 spots available.

Three HeartMath techniques will be taught. They are designed to help you find more balance and peace in your day to day life.

Register directly with me through email on my website at www.janicematthews.ca

Looking foward to sharing these powerful HeartMath techniques with you!

New website address

My two websites: talktotheanimals.ca and energyhealingwithjan.com were prematurely deactivated by GoDaddy.

My new web address is: www.janicematthews.ca

Unfortunately the premature deactivation hasn’t given me time to rewrite the content on the pages so please bear with me for a while.

Animal Communication and HeartMath are being combined as Heart to Heart Living for you and your animals but for anyone wanting just the HeartMath techniques, they are available. Clients taking the Animal Communication course will learn relevant HeartMath techniques. These two seemingly different processes are really an excellent fit!

As updates to my website are completed I will be sending out notices but feel free take a look now. New to my services is the addition of having emWave2 units for sale – contact me for pricing. When I finish my review of the +Heart program, it too will be available for sale so stay tuned for updates!

New, Amalgamated Website

Jan Matthews and her dogI am so pleased to be able to offer all my services on one website. This will cut down on administration for me and allow me to focus on what I love to do best, which is energy healing and communication with animals.

My old websites will be allowed to finish out their days and then will disappear. But everything you need to know will now be here all in one place.

Thank you to all my friends, clients, clients who have become friends for following along with me!

Heartfully Speaking

Published February 2017

 

How to Not Flip Out When Tensions Run High

 

Ticked off, impatient, short fused and irritated as heck. Lately it seems that tension is running higher than usual for a lot of people.

More than ever patience levels are being challenged for even the most composed individuals. From weather related events, to an unexpected health crisis, to job insecurity and financial turmoil, to shocking political antics and civil unrest, the list goes on. There is just no shortage of issues or circumstances that can and will test our emotional poise.

In our fast-paced world, life is often moving faster than our emotions can keep up with and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by emotions like frustration or anger. Our unsorted or unresolved feelings can start to stack and we end up having a blowout.

Emotions such as anger, fear and worry can and often do lead to unhealthy stress levels, knowing what to do to manage, or self-regulate our emotions can help to minimize the amount of stress we experience.

While we may experience some stress due to rush hour traffic or something we see on the evening news that makes us angry, that’s not necessarily unhealthy. The real health compromising effect of stress is when we dwell on that anger for an hour or two, or longer. That’s when stress begins to adversely affect our health.

Tools to help us connect with our heart and that help us slow down our inner speed can go a long way to prevent a stress build up and blow out.

To defuse frustration or anger, it’s important to become emotionally aware and acknowledge what we’re feeling. Taking a pause to identify what triggered our anger can actually help to slow down the emotional energy drain.

Once we identify the trigger we can ask our self what emotional belief is under that feeling of anger – e.g. Am I feeling disrespected? Am I feeling unfairly judged? Am I feeling uncared for? By asking our self these questions, we often can uncover a deeper belief underneath.

Runaway anger uses a lot of emotional energy. We can reduce the intensity of an anger reaction by simply breathing a little slower while focusing on our heart. Doing this smooths out the heart’s rhythm and sends a signal to the brain to ease up on the reaction, allowing us to regain some emotional poise. Learning to reset our emotional balance just takes some meaningful practice.

When feeling frustrated or like you’re gonna “flip” out, remembering to stop and take a moment to do an emotional reset can help prevent a lot of energy drain.

Try this tool as a way of resetting and do it for one minute or longer until there is a feeling that something is lightening up. Even if we don’t get to a complete release, a little ease can bring some relief. As more ease starts to filter in, quite often so will a more balanced perspective that can help to defuse emotional reactivity.

Use these simple steps for the HeartMath® tool called Notice and Ease

Notice and Ease
Step 1: Notice and admit what you’re feeling.
Step 2: Try and name the feeling.
Step 3: Tell yourself to e-a-s-e as you gently focus your attention in the area of the heart, relax as you breathe, and e-a-s-e the stress out.

The HeartMath Notice and Ease tool helps us shift our energy to inner self-awareness and connect with our heart’s rhythmic power to de-escalate the reaction and get back to a place of balance where we can think more clearly and find a more balanced perspective.

For more tips about how to defuse anger, get the book Transforming Anger: The HeartMath Solution for Letting Go of Rage, Frustration, and Irritation (New Harbinger Publications) by Doc Childre and Deborah Rozman, Ph.D.

 

This article is reprinted from the Institute of HeartMath: www.heartmath.org

If you are looking for help with handling your stress, please contact me – I’d love to help.

 

Does every dog long to be a household pet?

No, they don’t.  Some do for sure but a recent session with a dog I will call Rupert is a prime example of one dog having no interest in being a pet. Dogs are as individual in who they are as we humans are.

I was asked to work with Rupert by a new client whom I will call Rose.  Rose told me she got Rupert from a dog rescue and, while she has been able to make some improvements with Rupert’s behaviour in the house, whenever she took him out for a walk he became uncontrollable, charging and yanking on the leash with absolutely no self control and she has not been able to make any headway with him on this issue. Her arms and hands were sore too.  Rose was very concerned that she must be doing something wrong to set him off like that.

My first session with Rupert was very short – he was fearful of everything from people and other dogs to shadows on the ground. It actually took several sessions before he would accept my presence so we just did energy work to help calm his fears.  After a few sessions of calming energy work Rupert was able to participate more with the communication and started giving me bits and pieces of information but he showed no interest in what was going on.

Apparently Rupert showed improvement on the leash after the energy work. He walked on a loose leash a couple of times and Rose was hopeful that progress was being made.

It was New Year’s Eve when Rupert communicated that, while he was very appreciative of having food provided, he really wanted to be free of rules and boundaries – he wanted no part of that.  Rupert also communicated complete aloofness to humans.

Being New Years Eve I really didn’t want to pass this information to Rose and decided to wait until after New Years Day.  Late afternoon on New Years Day though,  I got an email from Rose asking if Rupert really wanted to be with her. He had gotten away from her and it took a long time and some frustrations getting him back.  I called her right away with the content of Rupert’s session and with great relief she decided to return him to the rescue.

Then I learned that Rupert was her very first dog. I was appalled that a dog rescue would send a dog with issues that seasoned dog handlers would take weeks if not months to work through, to an inexperienced person who has never had a dog before.  I also learned that Rose is his 3rd or 4th adoptee!  Clearly the dog rescue did not screen for appropriate placement.

Rose is to be commended for realizing that by keeping Rupert she wouldn’t be able to meet his needs and his life and hers would never be what either of them wanted.

Hopefully Rupert  will find a place where his needs can be met but his attitude clearly showed that being a household pet just wasn’t for him. Hopefully too, Rose will find a dog where both the dog’s and her needs will be met.

 

January 17, 2017

Christmas 2016

 

This picture from the back yard of my new home so depicts my feelings about Christmas – especially peace and tranquility and these are my wishes for you over this Christmas season.

Merry Christmas to all!

Christmas 2016

Christmas 2016

 

This picture from the back yard of my new home so depicts my feelings about Christmas – especially peace and tranquility and these are my wishes for you over this Christmas season.

 

Merry Christmas to all!

Stress – Does it affect you?

The dictionary definition of stress says it is to place emphasis on something – sounds pretty straightforward but the unseen and often unreconized stressors we face on a daily basis are not and their effects on us are not straightforward either!

For years now I’ve maintained that I am not stressed – after all, I’m retired so what could be causing me stress? I now know that, because I just accepted the stress triggers as part of who I am, that yes, I do experience stress too! For so long I assumed that stress was only for those who are busy and trying to get a ton of things done like caring for children and a home and cooking and cleaning or perhaps for those who are trying to make ends meet to take good care of their families. Stress is not confined to those in the workforce or those who are incredibly busy; we are all affected by it.

Some of the “little” things that cause me stress probably seem insignificant to many; others will relate to them. So often we tend to disregard these “little” things because we don’t see them as important or because we have experienced them for so long that we just accept them as part of who we think we are. One example for me is thinking about the future – stressful! Why? Because I wonder what the future will bring, will it be “good” or not? What if I do this? Or that? Or something else? And pretty soon my mind is in a swirl of what if’s. It doesn’t take long before I’m suddenly feeling worried and concerned and – yes – stressed! Thinking about the past does much the same thing – what if I had done something different? Should I have gone on that trip or would it have been better if I had stayed home and saved my money? Money – did I save enough for my retirement? And on and on it goes.

Some of the common “little” stressors so many of us accept without realizing it is making promises to do things we really don’t want to do; accepting invitations to events that we really don’t want to go to; planning our days to make sure we have time for absolutely everything we want to get done; getting upset if we drop something; feeling angry or upset if our plans go awry; getting annoyed if traffic is heavy or someone cuts us off – there are so many! Again, most of them we just accept because we have always reacted that way.

Remember that stress triggers are different for everyone – for example, some find a roller coaster ride exhilarating; others find it very scary.

Did you know that the Institute of HeartMath has scientifically proven that a stressful situation releases the stress hormone cortisol and when over-produced in a stressful situation, it can stay in your system for hours; continuing the stress response. This, in turn, causes many adverse reactions in our bodies eventually leading to disease.

If you feel it’s time to make a change and reduce your stress, try this exercise from HeartMath. Read through the whole exercise before doing it. It will immediately take the edge of the stress and help you return to a more calm, peaceful state.

Quick Coherence Technique

Step 1.

Focus your attention in the area of your heart – the centre of your chest area. Imagine your breath    flowing into and out from the heart area; breathing slower and deeper than normal.

If you have difficulty keeping the focus on your heart area and breathing, try counting to 5 on each inhale and exhale (or whatever rhythm is comfortable for you).

Step 2.

Make a sincere attempt at experiencing a positive feeling – it could be a feeling of appreciation for a person, animal or place. It’s the feeling you want to experience. If you have difficulty finding this feeling, focus on a feeling of calm and ease.

Do this exercise frequently during the day with your eyes open or closed and especially do it whenever you experience a stress situation no matter how small or inconsequential it may seem.

Consistent practice will result in your feeling calmer and eventually the stress trigger itself will disappear.

Cooper’s Lessons for me..

Have you ever had an intense gut reaction when meeting or seeing someone for the first time—an inner knowing that you and this other being have a connection that will be life-changing? I’ve been fortunate to have this happen a few times in my life — and two of the more memorable ones are once when meeting the man who became my husband, and again not too long ago when I saw a picture of a Saint Bernard dog who was available for rehoming.

I really wasn’t looking for a new dog but somehow found myself on the website of Saint Bernard breeder Tikki Smith (http://www.lasquitesaintbernards.com/Lasquite_Saint_Bernards.html), and there was a picture of a three-year-old Saint who needed a new home. He had been adopted as a puppy but was returned because his human guardian became too ill to look after him. As soon as I saw his picture, my gut told me we were supposed to be together, but since I was leaving for a two-week holiday in just two weeks, I figured it just couldn’t happen. In spite of myself, I emailed my interest and, when she agreed to hold him until I returned, I knew it was meant to be.

The whole process with Cooper, the Saint Bernard, was so unusual that I knew we had an important journey to make together—I just didn’t know what that journey would entail. If I ever had doubts about animals being our teachers, Cooper would soon lay them to rest.

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For years, I’ve struggled with issues involving animals, stemming from beliefs such as: all un-neutered animals are aggressive; people must be responsible human guardians, and animals under their care must never infringe on anyone else; animals must never be uncared for. Notice all the negatives here? These beliefs were in full force when I raised my two Golden Retrievers, becoming increasingly evident and leading me into over-responsibility and over-care with both of them. These two dogs, in addition to leading me into Animal Communication, started me on my journey of reversing my beliefs.

 

They led me to my journey within and to healing modalities like Qi Gong, EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), HeartMath, and many others that I still use today.  IMG_3893It turned out that Cooper, the Saint Bernard, would take on the job of keeping me on my path.

 

Cooper came to live with me the day after I returned from my vacation, and our adventure was underway. My first introduction to the power of a Saint was when I brought him home and we parked in my driveway. I got out of the car to open the back door for him and found myself lying flat on the driveway after he leaped into the front and out the driver’s door, knocking me over.

The first six months of our adventure were a whirlwind of vet visits and dog food issues. Two vets found a weak and thready pulse, hip problems, eyelash inversion, and an ear infection. On top of all this, he had diarrhea. Antibiotics cleared up a toe infection, and acupuncture relieved the hip pain and the eyelash discomfort. Surgery was done to neuter him, but because he was cryptorchid, it was substantially more invasive than a regular neutering, so his recovery was a bit more involved too. Eventually, his food allergies were sorted out and he was much more comfortable. To complement the acupuncture for his hip and eyelash issues, the vet suggested I keep his weight down and work more on building muscle tone, so he started going out for nature hikes with packs of dogs three times a week.

During this time, his behaviour issues were flourishing—no manners in the house or on the leash, he would crash into people, often knocking them (and me) down, charge other dogs, counter surf to scarf down whatever he could reach, charge the front window barking furiously whenever anyone went by (especially with a dog) or when a cat walked within his sight, refuse to come into the house or to move when asked, get on the furniture and refuse to get off, and many more. He had learned that he could use his weight to his advantage.

For two months I used EFT on myself and on Cooper, trying to change his behaviour of charging other dogs, especially small dogs. I used Animal Communication; I used HeartMath; I used Body Talk for Animals; I used corrective training and hired a dog trainer. Nothing had any obvious results.

We worked together on his behaviour issues until I started to realize that he was pushing every belief trigger button I’d ever had, especially the one about being a responsible dog guardian. I believed I was responsible for his every action and had to fix whatever wasn’t right with him. Another belief was about care/over-care—he was helping me realize I was falling into another trap of rearranging my life to accommodate his wants and needs, and not honouring my own boundaries while trying to set boundaries for him! On top of this, I was having bouts of anxiety before every outing with Cooper.

In addition to all the inner work I was doing, there were three main incidents that, together, got me really thinking about what I needed to do. All three incidents involved other people with small dogs where Cooper, in his exuberance to meet the dogs and play, had charged them. When this 140-pound dog came racing towards them to play with their dog, their fear made them react with unfortunate results; one man jerked his dog up by the leash, accidentally swinging it into a rock, then slipped and fell himself.

That last incident forced me to re-evaluate what was really going on here. After a very intense two-week period, during which I even considered getting a shock collar, finally one night everything came into focus and the answer was clear.

I did not want this anxiety in my life. I did not want to live with this fear that Cooper would inadvertently cause harm to someone or to their dog. As much as Cooper had made immense strides in becoming a more mannered dog, I wasn’t prepared to wait any longer for this main issue to be resolved. WOW—for me it was a huge shift to be able to accept that.

The next morning the breeder agreed to take him back, and we made arrangements to return him within a few days—to my great relief!

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Cooper did his job well with me, and I am honoured to have shared this short but fruitful journey with him. He is a sweet, sensitive and very smart companion who loves every dog and person he met and was dedicated to his job.

A Happy Ending?  Yes..

For myself, breaking through such deep-seated erroneous beliefs—that I had to “fix” him and I had to care for him regardless of the effects on me—allowed me to reclaim and honour my boundaries.

Within two days of Cooper going back to the breeder, he was on his way to a new home to live with a Newfie, a young Saint and his human guardians on a 2-acre fenced property. He is happy and very content in his new home, and being able to live with other dogs is a blessing for him.

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