Life is too shott

Posted on Facebook by Trust Your Journey. It is an excellent reminder for all of us.

“Life goes by in the blink of an eye. It’s too short to live upset, angry, resentful or ungrateful. If you look for the good, you’ll find it. Choose to be happy, to be at peace. Decide that each day is going to be a great day and grab each moment and make the best of it. Refuse to let negative thoughts take root in your mind and refuse to let negative people and situations drag you down. Trust your journey and know that if you make a mistake, it’s okay. See it as a lesson learned and keep moving forward. Spend less time worrying and more time being grateful for those who love you and all of life’s goodness. Choose to live in joy!”
~Charity M. Richey-Bentley

HeartMath Workshop

Heart To Heart Living is presenting another Introduction to HeartMath Workshop!

Date:  Saturday,  December 9th

Time: 1:30 – 3:00 pm

Location: Cedar Rd. The address will be provided to those who register.

Cost: $10.00

I will teach 3 basic HeartMath techniques that will bring more balance and peace to your life.

Space is limited to 10 so register now by emailing me at:


HeartMath Workshop coming soon

Are you disturbed by the tragic events happening lately? The devastation caused by the hurricanes, the rampant wildfires in BC this past summer, the tragic loss of lives in Las Vegas recently? Perhaps you are finding your day to day life hectic and fraught with upsets!

If you are challenged to find balance and peace in your life, mark your calendar now and plan to attend my Heart to Heart Living workshop on November 18th from 1:30 to 3:00 pm. The workshop is being held on private property in the south Ladysmith area. The address and directions will be provided to those who register. There is a nominal fee of $10.00 for this workshop. Register early because there are only 10 spots available.

Three HeartMath techniques will be taught. They are designed to help you find more balance and peace in your day to day life.

Register directly with me through email on my website at

Looking foward to sharing these powerful HeartMath techniques with you!

New website address

My two websites: and were prematurely deactivated by GoDaddy.

My new web address is:

Unfortunately the premature deactivation hasn’t given me time to rewrite the content on the pages so please bear with me for a while.

Animal Communication and HeartMath are being combined as Heart to Heart Living for you and your animals but for anyone wanting just the HeartMath techniques, they are available. Clients taking the Animal Communication course will learn relevant HeartMath techniques. These two seemingly different processes are really an excellent fit!

As updates to my website are completed I will be sending out notices but feel free take a look now. New to my services is the addition of having emWave2 units for sale – contact me for pricing. When I finish my review of the +Heart program, it too will be available for sale so stay tuned for updates!

New, Amalgamated Website

Jan Matthews and her dogI am so pleased to be able to offer all my services on one website. This will cut down on administration for me and allow me to focus on what I love to do best, which is energy healing and communication with animals.

My old websites will be allowed to finish out their days and then will disappear. But everything you need to know will now be here all in one place.

Thank you to all my friends, clients, clients who have become friends for following along with me!

Heartfully Speaking

Published February 2017


How to Not Flip Out When Tensions Run High


Ticked off, impatient, short fused and irritated as heck. Lately it seems that tension is running higher than usual for a lot of people.

More than ever patience levels are being challenged for even the most composed individuals. From weather related events, to an unexpected health crisis, to job insecurity and financial turmoil, to shocking political antics and civil unrest, the list goes on. There is just no shortage of issues or circumstances that can and will test our emotional poise.

In our fast-paced world, life is often moving faster than our emotions can keep up with and it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by emotions like frustration or anger. Our unsorted or unresolved feelings can start to stack and we end up having a blowout.

Emotions such as anger, fear and worry can and often do lead to unhealthy stress levels, knowing what to do to manage, or self-regulate our emotions can help to minimize the amount of stress we experience.

While we may experience some stress due to rush hour traffic or something we see on the evening news that makes us angry, that’s not necessarily unhealthy. The real health compromising effect of stress is when we dwell on that anger for an hour or two, or longer. That’s when stress begins to adversely affect our health.

Tools to help us connect with our heart and that help us slow down our inner speed can go a long way to prevent a stress build up and blow out.

To defuse frustration or anger, it’s important to become emotionally aware and acknowledge what we’re feeling. Taking a pause to identify what triggered our anger can actually help to slow down the emotional energy drain.

Once we identify the trigger we can ask our self what emotional belief is under that feeling of anger – e.g. Am I feeling disrespected? Am I feeling unfairly judged? Am I feeling uncared for? By asking our self these questions, we often can uncover a deeper belief underneath.

Runaway anger uses a lot of emotional energy. We can reduce the intensity of an anger reaction by simply breathing a little slower while focusing on our heart. Doing this smooths out the heart’s rhythm and sends a signal to the brain to ease up on the reaction, allowing us to regain some emotional poise. Learning to reset our emotional balance just takes some meaningful practice.

When feeling frustrated or like you’re gonna “flip” out, remembering to stop and take a moment to do an emotional reset can help prevent a lot of energy drain.

Try this tool as a way of resetting and do it for one minute or longer until there is a feeling that something is lightening up. Even if we don’t get to a complete release, a little ease can bring some relief. As more ease starts to filter in, quite often so will a more balanced perspective that can help to defuse emotional reactivity.

Use these simple steps for the HeartMath® tool called Notice and Ease

Notice and Ease
Step 1: Notice and admit what you’re feeling.
Step 2: Try and name the feeling.
Step 3: Tell yourself to e-a-s-e as you gently focus your attention in the area of the heart, relax as you breathe, and e-a-s-e the stress out.

The HeartMath Notice and Ease tool helps us shift our energy to inner self-awareness and connect with our heart’s rhythmic power to de-escalate the reaction and get back to a place of balance where we can think more clearly and find a more balanced perspective.

For more tips about how to defuse anger, get the book Transforming Anger: The HeartMath Solution for Letting Go of Rage, Frustration, and Irritation (New Harbinger Publications) by Doc Childre and Deborah Rozman, Ph.D.


This article is reprinted from the Institute of HeartMath:

If you are looking for help with handling your stress, please contact me – I’d love to help.


Does every dog long to be a household pet?

No, they don’t.  Some do for sure but a recent session with a dog I will call Rupert is a prime example of one dog having no interest in being a pet. Dogs are as individual in who they are as we humans are.

I was asked to work with Rupert by a new client whom I will call Rose.  Rose told me she got Rupert from a dog rescue and, while she has been able to make some improvements with Rupert’s behaviour in the house, whenever she took him out for a walk he became uncontrollable, charging and yanking on the leash with absolutely no self control and she has not been able to make any headway with him on this issue. Her arms and hands were sore too.  Rose was very concerned that she must be doing something wrong to set him off like that.

My first session with Rupert was very short – he was fearful of everything from people and other dogs to shadows on the ground. It actually took several sessions before he would accept my presence so we just did energy work to help calm his fears.  After a few sessions of calming energy work Rupert was able to participate more with the communication and started giving me bits and pieces of information but he showed no interest in what was going on.

Apparently Rupert showed improvement on the leash after the energy work. He walked on a loose leash a couple of times and Rose was hopeful that progress was being made.

It was New Year’s Eve when Rupert communicated that, while he was very appreciative of having food provided, he really wanted to be free of rules and boundaries – he wanted no part of that.  Rupert also communicated complete aloofness to humans.

Being New Years Eve I really didn’t want to pass this information to Rose and decided to wait until after New Years Day.  Late afternoon on New Years Day though,  I got an email from Rose asking if Rupert really wanted to be with her. He had gotten away from her and it took a long time and some frustrations getting him back.  I called her right away with the content of Rupert’s session and with great relief she decided to return him to the rescue.

Then I learned that Rupert was her very first dog. I was appalled that a dog rescue would send a dog with issues that seasoned dog handlers would take weeks if not months to work through, to an inexperienced person who has never had a dog before.  I also learned that Rose is his 3rd or 4th adoptee!  Clearly the dog rescue did not screen for appropriate placement.

Rose is to be commended for realizing that by keeping Rupert she wouldn’t be able to meet his needs and his life and hers would never be what either of them wanted.

Hopefully Rupert  will find a place where his needs can be met but his attitude clearly showed that being a household pet just wasn’t for him. Hopefully too, Rose will find a dog where both the dog’s and her needs will be met.


January 17, 2017

Christmas 2016


This picture from the back yard of my new home so depicts my feelings about Christmas – especially peace and tranquility and these are my wishes for you over this Christmas season.

Merry Christmas to all!

Christmas 2016

Christmas 2016


This picture from the back yard of my new home so depicts my feelings about Christmas – especially peace and tranquility and these are my wishes for you over this Christmas season.


Merry Christmas to all!

Stress – Does it affect you?

The dictionary definition of stress says it is to place emphasis on something – sounds pretty straightforward but the unseen and often unreconized stressors we face on a daily basis are not and their effects on us are not straightforward either!

For years now I’ve maintained that I am not stressed – after all, I’m retired so what could be causing me stress? I now know that, because I just accepted the stress triggers as part of who I am, that yes, I do experience stress too! For so long I assumed that stress was only for those who are busy and trying to get a ton of things done like caring for children and a home and cooking and cleaning or perhaps for those who are trying to make ends meet to take good care of their families. Stress is not confined to those in the workforce or those who are incredibly busy; we are all affected by it.

Some of the “little” things that cause me stress probably seem insignificant to many; others will relate to them. So often we tend to disregard these “little” things because we don’t see them as important or because we have experienced them for so long that we just accept them as part of who we think we are. One example for me is thinking about the future – stressful! Why? Because I wonder what the future will bring, will it be “good” or not? What if I do this? Or that? Or something else? And pretty soon my mind is in a swirl of what if’s. It doesn’t take long before I’m suddenly feeling worried and concerned and – yes – stressed! Thinking about the past does much the same thing – what if I had done something different? Should I have gone on that trip or would it have been better if I had stayed home and saved my money? Money – did I save enough for my retirement? And on and on it goes.

Some of the common “little” stressors so many of us accept without realizing it is making promises to do things we really don’t want to do; accepting invitations to events that we really don’t want to go to; planning our days to make sure we have time for absolutely everything we want to get done; getting upset if we drop something; feeling angry or upset if our plans go awry; getting annoyed if traffic is heavy or someone cuts us off – there are so many! Again, most of them we just accept because we have always reacted that way.

Remember that stress triggers are different for everyone – for example, some find a roller coaster ride exhilarating; others find it very scary.

Did you know that the Institute of HeartMath has scientifically proven that a stressful situation releases the stress hormone cortisol and when over-produced in a stressful situation, it can stay in your system for hours; continuing the stress response. This, in turn, causes many adverse reactions in our bodies eventually leading to disease.

If you feel it’s time to make a change and reduce your stress, try this exercise from HeartMath. Read through the whole exercise before doing it. It will immediately take the edge of the stress and help you return to a more calm, peaceful state.

Quick Coherence Technique

Step 1.

Focus your attention in the area of your heart – the centre of your chest area. Imagine your breath    flowing into and out from the heart area; breathing slower and deeper than normal.

If you have difficulty keeping the focus on your heart area and breathing, try counting to 5 on each inhale and exhale (or whatever rhythm is comfortable for you).

Step 2.

Make a sincere attempt at experiencing a positive feeling – it could be a feeling of appreciation for a person, animal or place. It’s the feeling you want to experience. If you have difficulty finding this feeling, focus on a feeling of calm and ease.

Do this exercise frequently during the day with your eyes open or closed and especially do it whenever you experience a stress situation no matter how small or inconsequential it may seem.

Consistent practice will result in your feeling calmer and eventually the stress trigger itself will disappear.